How to Have Better Relationships: A Resource Library
Relationships are the containers where we learn the most important lessons of our lives.
We believe relationships are both mirrors and classrooms — reflecting our patterns, strengths, and oldest wounds, and offering ongoing opportunities to learn, grow, and heal in ways no other experience will alllow.
The quality of our relationships shapes the quality of our lives, and yet most of us were never taught how to relate skillfully in the moments that matter most.
This resource library exists to support the practice of fulfilling connection. Here you’ll find practical tools, thoughtful perspectives, and real-world guidance to help you build stronger, more grounded, and more satisfying relationships — with others and with yourself.
Attraction Is Easy. Alignment Is What Lasts: Creating Relationships Based on Values, Capacity, and Time
Healthy relationships aren’t built by hoping it will all work out.
They’re built by sorting clearly and early—based on the difference between attraction and alignment, shared purpose, honest awareness of needs and gifts, values lived in action, and allowing time to tell the whole story.
Most people you date will not be your person—and that’s not a failure.
That’s the process working.
The sooner you can sort based on what’s real instead of what’s hoped for, the less unnecessary confusion and wounding there is for everyone involved.
We often put more thought, planning, and intention into things like meal prep, workouts, or our work calendars than we do into what we’re actually creating in our intimate relationships.
Yet who you choose as your partner is arguably one of the single most important decisions you can make, and your partner will influence your health and wellbeing in countless ways. So let’s create the best relationships we possibly can—with intention from the start.
Recommended Podcasts
Here’s a list of some podcasts I’ve enjoyed about communication, relationships, and intimacy. I’ll keep adding to this list.
How to Enjoy Dating (Safely) in 2026
Dating in 2026 looks very different than it did even a few years ago.
We have more ways to meet people than ever — apps, events, introductions, online spaces — and yet many people feel more cautious, burned out, or unsure how to navigate dating in a way that feels both safe and genuinely enjoyable.
The good news:
You don’t have to choose between safety and fun.
You can have both.
Enjoying dating today is less about finding certainty quickly and more about dating with clarity, patience, and self-trust.
How to Let Someone Know You’re Not Interested (Without Ghosting or Over-Explaining)
One of the most important — and least talked about — skills in dating is knowing how to end something early, kindly, and clearly.
The real power in dating isn’t in trying to make something work at all costs.
It’s in sorting out misalignment sooner rather than later. The truth is that everyone you date isn’t going to be the most aligned match. The sooner you can sort potential long-term alignment, the better.
When you do that well, everyone wins.
Reading List
Starting this list with a few heavy hitters! And it will be continually updated with more amazing books to support the best relationships of your life, so check back!
Want Additional Support?
Some people love learning through articles and events. Others benefit from more personalized support.
If you’d like help strengthening communication, building confidence in dating, or navigating relationships with more clarity and ease, one-on-one coaching is available.
Coaching offers a space to:
explore patterns and preferences
practice communication skills
work through challenges with support and perspective
build the kind of relationships you actually want to create